Sincerity Is the Key to Weight Loss and Happiness

Do you feel stressed, sad, or depressed because of your life challenges? Do you use food to unwind? It doesn’t have to be that way. This might seem surprising to you, but you don’t have to dwell into negative feelings when a challenge occurs.

Let’s imagine that your partner has just left you; someone you really liked. You feel sad. Then you start thinking how your life is ruined, how stupid you were to trust that person, or can you really believe in love?

You have a choice to make: look for a pint of ice cream or look at what causes you pain. What makes the difference?

With the first behavior, you let your gloomy emotions take over your mind. And who wants to feel depressed? Not me, not you either, right? So what is the 100% surefire way to bypass these hurtful emotions? Food—Eating a lot of food—specially your favorite food, ice cream, cookies, or chips.

Overeating is perceived at some level like a way out of that negative emotional state. Indeed, eating truly affects your body chemistry, so it really does change the way you feel. You feel more relaxed, at least, temporarily. Eating is also pleasurable, which explains why overeating is a preferable way to escape negative thoughts and emotions…and that is denial.

The reality is that if you overeat, you are insincere with yourself, because you deny looking at your life to understand your challenges.

Furthermore, we all know that overeating or binge eating has negative side effects: the first one being weight gain. When you gain a lot of weight and want, for various reasons, to lose this extra weight, but can’t achieve that goal, you feel helpless, which in turn, definitely moves you away from happiness towards frustration.

So let’s explore the other behavior: Look at what created the pain; in other words, look at your thoughts and listen to your feelings. This is the complete opposite strategy of overeating or bingeing.

If you consider  the example mentioned, you feel sad because your partner left you. Instead of wanting to bypass your negative thoughts and feelings to try to escape them, explore them!

Example of a negative thought:

You: “This person was the only one on this earth I can ever love.”

Ask yourself: are you sure that this person is the only one you can ever love?

Me: “How can you be so sure? Is it possible that there is someone else in the Universe you could fall in love with?”

Example of a negative feeling:

You: “When I think I lost my only love, my stomach and my head hurt.”

Me: “So how do you feel when you don’t think that thought? Furthermore, does it help you in any way to keep focusing on that hurtful thought? No? That’s critical for you to see and feel.”

This behavior doesn’t make things any better. On the contrary, be aware that you have the choice to think this depressing thought or not.

The understanding that thoughts are not real, but that they just appear real, even to the point that they can drive you crazy, is the first step. The second step is to recognize that you can decide to not focus on negative thoughts and emotions. This realization will help you transform your entire life, adding tremendous peace and well being.

Mastering this realization comes with practice and it works amazingly well. As you flush out all the negative thoughts and emotions after having confronted them, you will feel relieved—and that’s crucial. That means you don’t need food to feel better because you are feeling good. You become whole again, instead of feeling split inside: fighting yourself, not willing to look at your life, or simply ignoring it.

You stop overeating; therefore, you start losing weight.

The weight loss process has begun.

It all started with the desire to be sincere to yourself by looking at your life. The end result is that you feel good and more peace.

Sincerity IS the key to happiness.

If you want to learn more about the Bellsai weight loss method, I invite you to take my Free 5-Keys to Successful Weight-Loss e-course:
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About the Author:

Isabelle Johansen is a life coach specialized in helping people address their overeating and weight loss challenges.  She is the Founder of Bellsai Mindful Weight Loss and She coaches individually and in groups, and lead weight management classes at top Silicon Valley companies and the YMCA. Her clients gain a more positive outlook on their life, feel more centered and happy as they lose weight without struggle with the Bellsai Method.  To learn more go to:

Her free 5 Keys to Successful Weight Loss eCourse is available at

Copyright @2010  Isabelle Johansen. All rights reserved.


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